Tibor: “I just wanted to touch on what you mentioned about the exJW community. To me, sort of delayed this big revelation about JWs is how calling yourself an exJW and being on the surface an exJW doesn’t make you an exJW and how much of it sticks deep inside how many forms of behaviour, how it’s obvious that someone is still deep inside the JWs and you know with things that happened to you and you know with the people involved it’s just now when I see some of you know something I… the curiosity gets the best of me and I go off and read some of the things they are saying and it’s just so sort of revealing that these people aren’t exJWs. They might have exited officially but the cult indoctrination and the programming is still there which is really sad, and I hope that all of them get better for a lack of a better word. That they realise that it’s that what they are doing and the way they are behaving is not in any way I don’t want to say normal… I won't go into any details, but I have read a lot of stuff and a lot of stuff about me, and you know people not believing that my name is my name … you know the whole green screen thing.
It’s a conspiracy theory like when someone zooms in on the sky and says that is a UFO and that’s basically how those people were like oh there’s some fuzziness around Lloyd’s shoulder. Must be green screen so and I’m guessing that they went on a google search extravaganza for my name. I’m guessing so because someone has called me out on for not being me, my name Tibor but called me by my friend’s name, my friend who’s not even my friend he’s like my classmate from high school and I don’t know how they got through to his name I’m guessing maybe some post from him that included me on Facebook or something but it was quite like what are you doing… (Lloyd interjects that he hasn’t told him any of this) They’ve called me by my classmate’s name. They were saying like Tibor or should I say and then my classmate’s name. But a few pages before I think shortly after the green screen theory, they posted the front page of my undergraduate thesis which is on green screens.
Lloyd: We’re talking about a forum now so exJWs posted your video thesis...
Tibor: Not my video thesis but the screen grab of the front page of the text version, basically the literary part of my thesis which clearly has my name on it, there’s no way I could fake a name onto a thesis.
Lloyd: That’s messed up isn’t it. That’s more than what you signed up for really.
Tibor: And they were like oh you can see he’s done like green screen work so this much be green screen and stuff like that. To me it’s funny but also in a way it’s also sad because I don’t know how many people believe them and if they believe them, I don’t know how many people think the same way. I’m all for critical thinking and doubting things but when you start to doubt literally everything like how do you live with yourself, how do you call yourself an ex-cult member when you’re just like creating a cult in your head where nothing is true and no one is to be believed and I’m just by being associated with you, being your video editor it was enough for them and when I went on the forum actually and I was just like I thought like some of these people must be like rational people that I can just tell them look this is silly, this isn’t green screen and I honestly wish I could do green screen this well because then we wouldn’t even need to have a studio because I would just do this for a living. I was immediately attacked, no this must be Lloyd because I used a word, some word which is used all the time you know when in common conversations, but you know it’s used every day…
Lloyd: So they said you were me
Tibor: Yeah, I was you before using that word. So, stuff like that I hope that those people do get better and people who are actually proper exJWs who don’t have that sort of mentality I hope they find some help in our videos on how to navigate the life.
Lloyd: You don’t mean that like patronizing it’s genuinely you know.
Tibor: I mean I really want people to get you know help. Whoever gets help from our channel and gets …. Some sort of idea like on which direction they should go and stuff like that because we do have a lot of voicemails and some of those are a great thing to listen to as someone who is probably just who has just left the JW organisation and you could probably get some good info on sorting things out because it must be like we saw with Ben, you need to sort out so many things that we get for granted, or like we take for granted so I do hope that people do.
Lloyd: I feel like I need to apologise in a way because again that sort of thing where you’re having your basically privacy invaded on an online forum is above and beyond anything that you signed up for when you took the job and I think that’s the sort of kind of essentially harassment that would drive many people away. I think I need to thank you for sticking it out despite all that and all I would say is although there are … and I don’t want to get into exJW nonsense, I kind of make a point of not talking about it on the channel but one thing I’ve learned that although there is a disappointing kind of percentage of exJWs who are like this and who are not just kind of hyper-judgmental, but kind of borderline conspiracy theorists, nutcases. In all that’s happened over the past year, it’s also been a source of great reassurance to know that there are ex exJWs who have shed their judgmental side and who do understand that everyone is imperfect and gets to screw up now and then. I’m really really heartened by that and I draw great comfort from knowing that there are people who are kind and supportive and who believe in what we’re doing and when I say that I include you because for you to kind of stick it out through all that’s happened over the last 12 months and still be punching you know is a huge testament to your kind of resilience so thank you for still working for me. Thanks for taking my paycheque!